Have you ever wondered how you can make your life insanely easier?

Here’s a way, but it takes work like all things that last.

Patience.

Patience should be practiced at every opportunity. It will make you stronger.

You can practice your patience as the tow truck guy tells you that you need to pay for your car’s storage fees for days the shop was closed.

OR

You can practice your patience when you inevitably get lost in conversation with a blabbermouth who won’t shut up about her sons greatness.

Instead of reacting with rage, find the peace inside to calmly reason with the tow truck guy. The more pleasant you treat someone, the more difficult it is for them to contend. By lowering your guard first, it encourages others to follow suit. From this place of peace only compassion and mutual understanding is left to resolve the issue.

So how do you practice patience?

Lets take the blabbermouth lady. Concentrate on deep breaths as you clear your mind of a reply and just listen patiently.

“The biggest communication problem is we do not listen to understand. We listen to reply.” – Stephen Covey

Offer enough space so they can be themselves and feel heard.

“The greatest gift you can give someone is the space to be his or herself without the threat of you leaving.” – Kai Greene

Your threshold for emotional intensity will expand as you practice patience. After a couple weeks of practice you will notice that the experiences that used to be emotionally turbulent to lesson in emotional intensity. You will find this new sense of ease. You’ll be able to enjoy the present moment more instead of getting swept up by your intrusive thoughts.

If you’re having a hard time preventing this mental chatter, become more aware of your being beneath your skin. Your mind will focus on the sensation and away from your thoughts about why this moment is subpar. Your mind can’t think of two things at once. It feels like you are concentrating on letting your guard down. Enter this state without resistance..

You will find that in this stillness of peace, time will tick faster because you are no longer breaking the flow of your life with mental concepts, such as time. You are just joyfully lost in the present moment being. One moment ceaselessly flows into the next as you prevent your mind from creating the mental commotion that snaps you away from your life’s movie. It’s as if you were watching the movie of your life on a movie screen and an annoying man keeps tapping your shoulder asking you for the time. You keep missing meaningful snippets of your life because you are too busy reading the clock on your wrist.

With all that being said, this doesn’t magically make all your pain vanish. It only lessons it.

“The practice of patience guards us against losing our presence of mind. It enables us to remain undisturbed, even when the situation is really difficult. It gives us a certain amount of inner peace, which allows us some self-control, so that we can choose to respond to situations in an appropriate and compassionate manner, rather than being driven by our disturbing emotions.” – Dali Lama